Actress, ChaCha Eke Faani has taken to her Instagram page 15 ways parents impact their children’s behavior.
The mother of three penned a lengthy post titled ‘Dear Parents’ listed out the ways a child’s behavior is formed as a result of their upbringing and environment.
- If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behavior.
- If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
- If your children have poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
- If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
- If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.
- If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
- If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.
- If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehavior & you give little attention to good behavior.
- If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it
- If your children intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
- If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
- If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.
- If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behavior.
- If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions
- If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.